How a Cup Changed My Life

I’m very easy going, and can get along with nearly anyone I meet. But there’s one week out of the month that no one wants to be around me. My hair is usually in disarray, I’m wearing sweats and I’m very cranky. If you’re a woman, you know what I’m talking about because chances are that you probably go through it too.

If it wasn’t for the cramps and headaches, I’d probably still be cranky because I absolutely despise the mess that comes along with the monthly menstrual flow. I’ve been called everything from a germaphobe, to an obsessive compulsive clean freak (although you probably couldn’t tell if you saw my cluttered living room right now).

Pads, in my opinion, are the epitome of grossness. You’re basically sitting in an adult diaper that moves around, leaks and is just no fun to sit on. Tampons are better as far as being “neater,” but they run the risk of TSS (Toxic Shock Syndrome) and death (go read your box, it will warn you that it could kill you), not to mention they contain a bunch chemicals that women are putting inside their bodies. Can you say eeeewww??? And have you noticed that your cramps are worse when you wear tampons? I have!

Suffice it to say I have been ready for an alternative for a long time.  I didn’t want to use cloth pads, because despite the fact that they are greener they don’t eliminate my issue with mess.  That’s why when I learned about menstrual cups, after initially being weirded out, I was ready to try them. How bad could they be right?

So what is a menstrual cup? It’s a cup that you insert into “you know where”, and it collects the blood from the cervix. Drop your jaw off of the floor, and hear me out before you quickly click away and never return.

For the first two days of trying out the menstrual cup (I got the Diva Cup brand), I did have a few issues and continued to wear pads to catch a few leaks. It took me several tries to finally figure out how to get it inserted correctly.  Once I figured it all out and got it in right, I was flabbergasted, to say the least. Here’s what I discovered:

  1. When a menstrual cup is inserted correctly, you can’t even feel it.  If I wasn’t very conscious of it, I would forget it was in there!  If you can feel it or it is uncomfortable, then it’s not in right.
  2. Cups can be emptied twice a day: Once in the morning when you get up, and then at night before going to bed.  This is one of the most amazing things to me.
  3. You can still go to the bathroom while a cup is in.
  4. There is no risk of TSS, because the cup doesn’t absorb anything.  All it does is collect.
  5. A cup is by far cleaner to deal with than pads or tampons.  All you do is empty it, wash it with a fragrance-free mild soap and then reinsert it.  If you are in a public place, just empty and reinsert it, then wash it later when you get home.   After your cycle is over, you can clean the cup by boiling it or soaking it in s a diluted hydrogen peroxide mixture.
  6. Cups are non-toxic and are a great way to go green!  No more filling landfills with pads or tampons.
  7. If the cup is in correctly (which you figure out how to do pretty quickly), then there are no leaks!!!  If you know you are about to start your period, then just insert the cup and you don’t have to worry about any leaks happening.
  8. Cramps become non-existent.  At least this was the case with me.  The chemicals in pads and tampons, as well as the rubbing of these products are what cause a lot of cramping.  Caffeine does this too, so I’m sure to stay away from caffeine the first two days of my cycle.
  9. Cups save you money.  For $25 you can get a Diva Cup on Amazon (best price I have found), and you never have to buy pads or tampons again.  If taken care of properly, a cup can last years or even decades.

Now I know what you all are thinking, because I was thinking it too: GROSS!  After giving the Diva Cup a try, everything is cleaner and more sanitary than it has ever been during one week out of the month.  It’s like I don’t even have a period anymore!  I hope you will not knock it before you try it, or think that I am just a whack job for putting this out there.  This is the best thing I ever could have done for my period, and am happy to say that this obsessive compulsive germaphobe, now has a happy “clean” period.

Want me to try more crazy stuff? Watch this video:

Loading Facebook Comments ...
109 Comments:
  1. I’m also curious… are they free of all the yucky toxins that are often present in plastic?

    • They are Kalina! That’s the wonderful thing about them. And they are non-porous so they really are the most sterile thing you could use.

    • Just to add to that, most menstrual cups are made of medical grade silicone. I only know of one (the Keeper) that’s made out of latex.

      • one of the best things ever! Yes! My periods are so bad I cannot tolerate tampons at all, but the Diva Cup works well and has reduced cramps (though my condition they won’t ever go away…) and I LOVE that I can swim with it! I don’t have to decide between not going and the agony of a tampon any more!

  2. I’ve had a diva cup for over 5 years now and I absolutely love it. It’s saved me hundreds of dollars over the year and I’ve had a more pleasant period experience thanks to it. I highly recommend it to any lady who is interested. You’ll never go back!

  3. I haven’t used the Diva Cup but I use Instead and I love it. They are disposable but I use one throughout my entire cycle. I wash it when I empty it and toss it at the end of the cycle. Still not super environmentally friendly, but easier and more comfortable for me than tampons or pads.

  4. Kalina, it’s silicone, so it’s not even plastic. The Keeper is latex I think. There are a few other brands out there.

  5. Wow! I am so glad you shared your experience. I have seen these before and wondered about them but never heard anybody’s story with them. Sounds like a very positive one so I might just invest. Thanks!

  6. My Gyno mentioned these to me before but I didn’t really know if I wanted to try it. You’re post is making me think…

  7. The chemicals added to pads and tampons make the materials super-absorbent, so you get super ‘dry’ which I think causes a lot of pain and discomfort that is blamed on cramps. I used to be sore for days after completing my period. I’ve been using a menstrual cup for over a year now and agree that the whole procedure is much easier to deal with now!
    (Although on heavy days I have to empty the cup more often than every 12 hours…)

        • Only “a little blood”? I find it hard to believe. I don’t mean to put TMI but with my flow, I would imagine a full cup if not overflowing.

          So what happens when the cup overflows? Did you have to empty it more frequently when you first start using it so that you can find out if you can change it twice a day or 5 times a day?

          • You empty the cup in the toilet, and then yes you are only cleaning a little bit in the sink. And I would say empty it 4-5 times a day for the first two days of your cycle.

          • Everyone has different flow rates and you’ll have to find out what works for you. The first two days of my period are pretty heavy, so I have to empty the cup every four hours. (Overnight is perfectly fine.)

            If your cup overfloweth, well, it’s messy. Basically the “seal” around the cup opens, and a lot of the contents may rush out at once.

            This is why it’s recommended to wear backup while you’re getting used to it. ^_^ I’ve had my cup for about 6 years now, and I can’t remember the last time it overflowed.

  8. Wow amazingly enough this post reaches me today of all days; I am that woman you speak of (1st day…ugh) anyways it sounds interesting but I don’t think I will be trying it for myself. All of my feminine products I get for free anyway with coupons and sales & I don’t feel any ill effects from any of the brands I have gotten. :)

  9. I have a Diva cup and I love it! I have endometriosis and this really helps decrease the cramping. It also does not leave me dry after my period so I can resume sex without half a bottle of lube (okay, maybe not a half a bottle, but you know what I mean!) as before when I used tampons. The only trouble I have it that for the first few days my flow is so heavy I have to wear a pantyliner and change it often. You can also buy diva wash, although it is simply a citricidal soap, so you could also just buy a soap with grapeseed extract from your local health food store for cleaning it. Kudos to DC!

  10. I’ve used the Diva Cup my last 2 cycles. I will never go back to disposable products or cloth pads.

  11. Wow…I was just thinking about this yesterday for reasons I’m sure y’all can figure out. :-) Thanks for posting this great review – I will definitely be purchasing one!

  12. There are also sea sponges available at Gladrags.com (and many other places too, I’m sure). They are just what they say they are – sea sponges. Helped me tons w/cramps etc., easy to wear (you really don’t feel it!) and easy to clean. Better for the earth, better for my body, way better for my wallet! And as far as I know, you can swim with just about all reusable cup/tampon products : )
    Ana Maria S. – I encourage you to give this, or any other reusable product a try! There are some really nasty chemicals in disposable pads/tampons. Even if you don’t physically feel anything, your body is absorbing more of those chemicals than one might think. Ridding your body of these things can only benefit you! : )

  13. I will ask this question. I just must not be the only one out there with this problem. How does it handle the large clots that pass? It seems like a clot or two would just fill the whole thing in two seconds. Anyone?

    • Fairly well. I can feel it suddenly and go deal with it. It holds an ounce, so that is a pretty decent size clot I’ve found. Many say even if overfull, the seal is good enough to prevent leaks. My personal body shape isn’t quite, um, ‘right’ so I don’t get quite that good of a seal so if really over full there are slight leaks, but I always wear a cloth pad as a little back up to be safe :D MUCH better than when I just used pads and had to deal with clots!!

  14. I am right there with you! I have had mine for 3+ years and I will never go back. I would love to tell everyone woman I meet about this product but it isn’t something you can bring up in a casual conversation. The “yuck” factor is so small (especially once you get the hang of it) and compared to all the benefits, it has been the best $25 I have spent.

  15. Thanks for the great info! Don’t feel weird about sharing it; it’s is information many of us have wondered about!

    Remember the sponge in the 80′s? Never had luck inserting those or ob tampons, so not sure if I would be able to do the cup either, but it is worth a try! Thank you again!

  16. This might me a little TMI, but I was wondering the same thing as KC. I too pass large clots, and have unusually heavy periods. Is this a pratical substitution for someone in my position? I go through so many tampons during one cycle, it is ridiculous. But I also have severe cramps, and it would be wonderful to eliminate them or even help ease them. Thank you for the information.

    • The cup will probably be perfect for your issue. You may have to empty it more often during the heavy days, but I think you will be surprised at how much a cup helps you with this.

  17. I too have a Diva Cup, but I would caution all of you to be careful of the size you buy. When I purchased mine I had already given birth vaginally 2 times and was nearly 30, so I bought the bigger size as suggested. However, I have always had issues with super size tampons and I do have issues with the bigger sized Diva Cup. I should have purchased the smaller one. The big one hurts after a few hours. It does work great for those days when I have a very heavy flow, though and I notice MUCH less cramps! When things get better financially, I plan to purchase the smaller one.

  18. I LOVE my diva cup! I tell all the ladies I know about it. I don’t know why they aren’t more common. They are amazing!

  19. I just my Diva Cup for the first time last month and I loved it!!! I forgot about it all the time and never once worried that I was going to get sick or even felt sick or dry or crampy the whole time!! It was literally one of the best period experiences ever for me. I had bought it after my last period and was waiting to try it out. I found it and made my friend try it first :) I’m a little chicken sometimes. I didn’t even know there WERE sizes!! but I definitely agree that the smaller one would be fine for most (I’ve had 4 vaginally and have the small one). I empty twice on the first two days but after that it’s once a day for me. I am so happy to post this because I have wanted to tell every woman I meet but how awkward would that be? heheh and I swim in it too! My best friends wore hers throughout our triathlon…that was the the final reason for me to get one!

  20. I can’t even use tampons because of such a heavy flow with clots that leaks. Do these catch it better than a tampon? I can’t believe it’s not messy to empty it- don’t your hands get gross? What about lighter days towards the end? Can you still get it in? I can’t wear a tampon on lighter days because I am so dry. I have the worst periods ever.

    • I have problems with clots too and I was worried about the very same thing as you. I have been using the Diva Cup for 4 years now and I am soooooo much happier than I thought I would be with it. The most I have had to empty the cup in a day is 4 times which is a lot less than a heavy day with tampons or a pad. On an average day I deal with the cup 2 times, seriously that is it! I always have toilet paper in my hand when I take out the cup so I can do any quick clean up if necessary. I have convinced at least 5-6 of my friends including my sister in law, who is a tough nut to crack, to try the Diva Cup and ALL of them that have tried it have left tampons and pads behind.

    • Jan,

      I have been using the Diva Cup for about three years now and love it. I have a heavy flow and some clots, and I needed tampons and pads for the first few days. The DC definitely catches everything. I do not wear any pads anymore at all. I do have to empty it more than twice a day for the first few days, though. Emptying the cup is no grosser than pulling a yucky tampon out!

      Another great side effect: I never have to worry about the dog getting in the trash. Blech!

    • Hi Jan! The tampons are the culprits in drying you out. The cup doesn’t do that. I use it comfortably even past when my period is completely ended. And the cup is actually a lifesaver for those with heavy flows. I think you will be surprised at how much it helps you with your issue.

    • The pads are the culprit drying you out. The chemicals and bleach in the cotton for the pad are being absorbed by your mucus membranes in your vulva.

      To combat the dryness when inserting the DC, you wet it first. I always rinse it off, so it always goes in moist.

  21. I have been using the Diva Cup for about 4 years now and am so glad I made the switch. Last month I had some medical issues and was instructed by the doctors that I could only use pads for that one cycle. After one day of that I realized just how spoiled I was having the Diva Cup. It is sooooo much easier to deal with. The one thing that I really love is not having to worry about running out of supplies, the Diva Cup is all I need every month. No more running to the store or hoping I have enough products to get me to my next available store run. I am always telling my friends about it when the subject comes up.

  22. Okay, so I’m interested in this but also want to ask a question. I wear Nuvaring, so would this bump against the Nuvaring? Does anybody know? Weird question, and maybe I’m asking it completely wrong, lol.

    • Carin,
      Nuvaring is worn for three weeks then removed the week of your period so you shouldn’t have any problems!

      • I just started wearing the Nuvaring, so I know I had to put it in my first day of my period. And the doctor said that sometimes I would start early before the week off of the ring. So I’m guessing I’ll just try it and see how it goes! Thanks Allison

  23. Interesting…I have never heard of this. I learn so much from your blog, thank you! Would this be something that daughters just starting their cycle could use? My daughter is a swimmer and I’m thinking ahead for swim team…

    • The smaller size is recommended for young girls. I didn’t use a Diva Cup before getting married and having babies, so I can’t be sure if it will work well. But the company says it works, so I guess you could give it a try? She might have to break her hymen in order to wear a cup (like she would if she wore tampons) and I’m not sure if that is something she will want to do.

  24. thanks thrifty mama. i will try this out for sure after reading your post and others comments.

  25. Thank you for sharing this! Many women don’t ever want to mention or talk about this kind of thing, but I feel so relieved in reading the comments and seeing so many other women have similar problems as mine! I’m interested in trying this…is this the sort of thing you need to talk to your doctor about first or do you just get it and try it?

    • If you have ever had TSS then you should talk to your doctor about it definitely. Otherwise I think you can just give it a try :)

  26. Great post! I wrote something similar a while back exploring all of the options for reusable menstrual products: http://greenfrugalmama.wordpress.com/2010/09/27/ditch-the-disposables-feminine-products/

    I use the Diva Cup myself and will NEVER go back. Used to have terrible, debilitating cramps the first day of my period. Now? No more! Used to be so dry by the end that I would be in tears trying to change tampons. Now? No more! It’s just an amazing product and I tell everyone I know about it!

  27. I’m actually pregnant so this doesn’t apply to me right now, but I will definitely give it a try next year. And I wanted to say thank you for not being afraid to bring up subjects like this, the information is great!

    • Buy it when it’s on sale! I got a chance to buy mine for $15 when an online company was going out of business. At the time I was pregnant, like you are now, and don’t regret it for a minute! It stayed in the box and was ready when I needed it!

  28. Where was this before I went through the change?!&*?! You girls are so lucky to have altenatives to something that caused my generation to dread ‘that time of the month’ now if they could just find something to stop the things that have started going south to stay perky, well that would just be too cool!

  29. I wanted to thank you for sharing the information but I am not ready to try this out. It just sounds so incredible to me. I have so many horror thoughts about it… like, it’s a cup that catches things, so I assume it has an open top. Wouldn’t all the stuff just “falls out” if I don’t stand up straight? And the emptying and cleaning, it sounds like a huge mess. Despite all the unfortunate trash that goes to the landfill, one thing I do like about disposables is that I can just toss it and not worry about cleaning it. But this cup will require washing and sticking my fingers in it… I can’t get over the images in my head. Maybe I am making it much worse than it is but I don’t think I’ll be able to adapt just yet. I still have a full cabinet full of pads (thanks to the great CVS deals you posted earlier) so I might come back to this idea when I run out of them. :-)

    • Don’t feel bad Selene. You are having the same thoughts I was having before trying it. The cup has tiny holes so that it suctions to the inside walls of your body. No leaks, no tipping, nothing. I know you’re nervous because I was too, but if you are willing I would challenge you to try it for at least two days and see what happens :) If you ever do try it, come back and leave your feedback!

  30. I’m so glad to see this post! I learned about menstrual cups several years ago when I was searching for alternatives to pads/tampons, but it was another 2 years before I had the courage to try it. Now I’m on year 6 and I still love my cup!

    Before the cup I only used pads. (I could ALWAYS feel tampons. Not comfy at all!) For the last few days of my period my butt cheeks would be chapped and irritated from the pad. *^_^*

    It took me a while to get used to the cup, but that’s pretty normal. For most women it takes 3 cycles before you really *get* how to use it, so stick with it!

    Cleaning really doesn’t have to be complicated. I rinse my cup in plain water during my period, and give it a quick wipe with rubbing alcohol before my next cycle. I’ve never used soap on my cup. Number of vaginal/yeast infections = 0

    This next part will sound hokey, but I wanna share it anyway. ^_^

    The best thing about the cup is that it’s changed how I feel about my period. I used to hate it soooooooo much, and it seemed like a terribly annoying (and gross) thing that I had to put up with.

    Now it’s just part of life. Neither good nor bad, just something that *is.* That change is surprisingly empowering. ^_^ I never expected that the cup would change my life so much, but it really has!

  31. I found it at Vitacost.com for $22 something, plus $5 shipping, and with 6% cashback from Shop At Home, it made for a good price. I didn’t see that it was available for free shipping with Amazon Prime…otherwise it might be a better deal that way. Not sure what the shipping cost is on Amazon for it.

  32. Okay…let me say this…I am using my DivaCup RIGHT NOW, and this morning, I was thinking….”How do I blog about this?” …and my first sentence (in my mind) was your first sentence too–”Men, skip this!” LOL!

    I found out about the DivaCup many, many years ago through, of all places, the DISboards! It was a thread about packing for Disney, and a girl on there told us we would haven’t have to pack “necessities” if we switched to a cup….and that was the beginning for me.

    I have to say that you have hit every nail on the head with your description of the DivaCup.

    It is an amazing discovery and invention. I’ve gotten to the point where I only have to empty it once a day, and I dread even doing that…because like you said–you literally forget you are using it.

    Also–another amazing point you brought up…I never cramp anymore! Plus, my periods are now only lasting about 2-3 days versus the 5-7 days before.

    I’ve told three girls about this cup. One took to it immediately, and the other two vowed it was “gross.”

    The thing to remember about the DivaCup versus the other cups is that this one is FDA approved (or so I read when I was researching it all those years ago).

    I use it each month and boil it when I’m done. Then, I put it away in my little pouch for the net time. I’ve only had to replace it twice in all these years…the first time, my dog found it and thought it was a chew toy! (UGH) …the second time, I forgot I was boiling it! (OOPS!)

    If you will Google the cup, you can find it a little bit cheaper than Amazon. It’s always a different company for me….this last time, I found it cheaper from a company in California.

    Just keep looking around. It costs right over $20, and it lasts a lifetime, and think of all the money you save on personal hygiene items!

    Thank you for posting on this!!! More people need to learn about it (and yes, they do have a facebook page)!

  33. Crystal, As a follow up comment–this post encouraged me (sort of) to finally blog about it on my site….However, that said (!!!), I asked my readers to read YOUR post on the DivaCup! I could never have captured what I wanted to say like you did, and you covered all points beautifully (both in your post and in the comments above). So, I hope you don’t mind; I am pointing my readers your way. :D

  34. This might be a weird/sorta gross question, but what do you do when you rinse it off? I’m assuming you’d have to get up off the toilet to go rinse it, but then you don’t have anything to catch any blood that may come out while you’re rinsing. Right?

    • In my home the toilet is *right next* to the sink. I can just reach over and rinse my cup without having to get up.

      A few times (when visiting friends) the sink has been *right across* from the toilet, so I still didn’t have to go far. Many women who use cups in public bathrooms just dump the contents in the toilet and wipe the cup carefully with toilet paper. Others wear a cloth pad and shimmy out to rinse the cup in the sink. I’m not that bold. *^_^*

      I actually read a story where a woman made a gaudy chalice for her cup! When she was at work she’d put the cup in the chalice (after emptying it, of course) and carry the chalice out of the bathroom stall. This way she could “hide” the cup from people who are squeamish, but the chalice also sparked conversations and added a dash of awesome to period time. So creative!

      • At home my toilet is in its own lil private room within the bathroom, so I stuff a wad of TP between my legs and jump up to clean it.

  35. Well, I have heard about these things before but it always just sounded so incredibly disgusting. But I am really thankful for this post and the totally honest questions and discussions because all of mine have been brought up. So, while I am still somewhat squeamish, I am actually willing to try it. For me, the main reason is thinking about chemicals. I don’t use tampons, but I never thought about chemicals being in pads and those being absorbed into my body. Thanks for the great discussion!

  36. Thank you for this post! It made me try it and I LOVE LOVE LOVE it after 2 days of use. I don’t feel like I have my period at all. Sorry for the TMI, but there is no bad smell. I never realized it was the tampons that made it smell bad! Eiwwwww

    And I’m so glad not to be having to wrap each used tampon up in a plastic bag and carry it outside to the trash (I never liked the thought of leaving them in my bathroom after my dog went through my trash once and ATE SOME!)

    Even though I personally love this cup, I wanted to share a negative review about it from Amazon… only because I think it’s hilarious. I laughed the whole time I was reading it. Here it is:

    So one of the many new devices I purchased for this trip was a Diva “Moon Cup”. Since feminine hygine supplies would be hard to come by and waste-producing, I opted instead to buy a thing like a Barbie Deluxe Toilet Plunger, and stuff it up my hooha.

    The theory is that the cup catches your pan drippings, and you empty it a couple times a day, washing it with hippy soap, and reinserting. It presupposes you are enough of an Earth Mother to be OK not only with your monthly outpourings, but also with generally fossicking around in your flaps. Now, I am no stranger to gore. Nor am I squeamish about my delicate rose of delight, except that I have no such illusions about it and indeed am always reminded of nothing so much as stuffing an oddly-warm raw turkey. So, when after several weeks of teasing, the Period Fairy threatening to postpone the Communist Invasion until I was actually getting on the plane (I was about ready to scream and cry at some hapless unwary male just as a sacrifice to appease her) at last I greeted the rosy-fingered dawn and set about embarking on my new life as a eco-friendly Diva.

    The Moon Cup comes in two sizes; Size A, for youthful nymphs under 30 who have never given birth and have silken tresses and tinkling laughs and are all size 0, and size B, for Big Ol’ Bitches like m’self, who have either spawned, or are so old (ie over 30) that they might as well have been poppin’ them out like Duggar Donuts, because their sugar walls are now echoing corridors full of cobwebs and slackness. Of course the packaging phrases it more nicely, but I was miffed to see that despite having never replicated, I was still doomed to the Big Gulp size because of my age alone.

    So, chalice in hand, fingers washed, and let’s fold that thing like a taco (no, not THAT thing, the other thing!) and cram it up where only one man has gone before and even then not for a damn long time even when he WAS still around. I’m sure I imagined the rusty creaking sounds as I tried to shove something which was larger than anything previous (with the exception of various medical speculums which, I believe, were constructed by the same person who designed the Montlake Drawbridge)into the Gaping Maw.

    Now, you’re supposed to roll the cup up, smuggle it past the border, let it expand, then turn it clockwise (or counter clockwise, or then one way and another, stopping when you hear the click, or something…) anyway, you’re supposed to be able to turn this thing like a dial in there.”If the cup does not turn easily, you did it wrong” Oh, of course, I’ll just grasp hold of a thing about the size, shape, and slipperyness of the pointy end of a peeled hard-boiled egg, which is now buried in the meaty folds of my innermost femininity, which, I may add, are well-sluiced with the special effects from a Quentin Tarantino film, and spin that sucker like a dredel.

    There is, also, a small stem at the base of this cup, which, being made of the same slippery silicon and about a centimeter long, is about as helpful as providing a live, untrained earthworm for a handle. More on this later.

    So, rotate this thing in situ, to ensure a good ‘seal’ and a comfortable fit.

    Does. Not. Happen.

    Ladies (and gentlemen, although I hope for your sake none of you gentlemen are reading this), I tried. I hauled that thing in and out of there more times, and with much less joy, than Eeyore with his birthday present, and not once could I get that thing to “turn easily”. I finally gave up, since it seemed, at one point, to be “fully inflated” and more or less in the right place. Frankly I think that having left my furrow unplowed for so long, I’m not exactly the proper degree of hotdog-hallway that the instruction-writer was intending to address, but so be it. Let’s give this thing a whirl, if we can’t give it a twist.

    Fast forward a few hours in which I’ve done nothing much. To its credit, I don’t feel the presence of THE CUP at all, no discomfort, not even a vague sense of “eugh” as I sometimes have when knowing all that stands between me and my khakis is a small cottony Dutch boy. In fact, I’m getting rather concerned that the Diva Cup has wormed its way in like some form of parasitic jellyfish and is now eagerly migrating up my fallopian tubes, with me all unknowing. Time to go fishing.

    And that is where I discover that, while it’s difficult to try and ‘turn’ a Diva Cup newly lodged in your sanctum sanctorum, it’s a freakin’ log-fall compared to trying to recover said Cup after it has gotten comfortably settled in the downy folds of your blood-engorged tissues. Yes, indeed, if cram my fingers up there to the point of pain, I can just, tantilizingly, tickle the end of that goddamn silicone ‘stem’. Grasp it? Not in hell.

    Of course the instructions say, if this happens, DO NOT PANIC. Well, thank god for that, because I was already running through the list of people I’d trust with a flashlight, a set of forceps, and an experience that would scar both of us for the rest of our lives. There were instructions for different positions, and “bearing down” and so forth, which I tried, to no avail, and I was pretty sure that my ham-fisted efforts (ahem) were just making things worse on the “swollen” front, so Diva and I took a break, and retired to our respective corners for an hour or so.

    Now I brought out my secret weapon: Beer. If, gods help me, I ever have to have a baby, I intend to be drunk off my ass for the delivery, and I surely hope that the Fairy Prince Unicorn Elvis who is my chosen Babydaddy will provide a bedside IV of godly ambrosia, or at least Jim Beam. But anyway, two beers and I’m good to go spelunking in quest of the Holy Grail once more.

    Either the beer, or the break, or the combination of all of these and squatting on the bathmat like a Neanderthal crapping, finally, produced enough of that goddamn ‘stem’ to grab (which was good, because I was dreading having use the kitchen tongs Up There or something) and, with a surprising amount of horrible suctioning “discomfort”, the invader was routed! And, wonder of wonders, it was indeed partially filled. Not filled with DELICIOUS CANDY, no, but it did seem to have been, you know… -working-, before I so rudely dislodged it from its parasitic feeding. I felt a combination of grudging respect and intrigue, as one might upon meeting a foe worthy of their steel. Provided we could agree to disagree on the whole “turn 360 degrees in place” aspect, perhaps this could indeed be a workable partnership. Better than bleeding into the Rupununi and attracting every caiman, pirahna, and candiru fish for fifty miles.

    But not without some boundaries first. I tied a ROPE to that stupid stem this time.

    • Can’t stop laughing and crying right now. Glad no one’s except for my 19 month old. She thinks I’ve lost my mind but am the funniest mom ever. LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    • THANK YOU for the laugh! My tear ducts are now cleaned out because I was also crying!! That was fabulous!
      I had a hysterectomy 8 years ago but had found the Diva Cup 2-3 years before that. It was what I had tried in my mind to construct since I was a teenager! (I’m 52 now). I had been plagued with severe, almost hemorrhage type periods. I would use a super tampon and super pad at the same time and on day one have to change every 15 min.- 1/2 hour. I wasn’t able to leave the house for the 1st 2 days each cycle. After the initial trial and error it is so nice to not worry about spillage and running out of supplies. I always packed it when going on a trip “just in case” since I was always irregular. When the Dr. told me I needed the hysterectomy I was very disappointed that I only got a couple years use out of it! Sure wish I’d found it earlier. Go ahead..TRY IT!! Give it a couple months to feel totally comfortable with it and you’ll be glad you did!

  37. Wow, someone certainly had a lot of time on her hands to write that one :)
    absolutely hilarious.

    I have honestly never heard of a menstrual cup before, but it sounds like it’s worth a try.

  38. So I am passed the age of needing this, but my 18yo wanted one! I was/am grossed out by it, but she swears by it… Says it’s way easier than tampons & pads, doesn’t have to carry stuff in her purse. Hey, I know that it has saved ME lots of money :) ….

  39. Okay, so a review from a newbie who survived one cycle with it:

    I read that hilarious review a few posts up and pretty much agreed with it. The first time trying to take it out?! Oh my gosh! But overall, a definite thumbs up!

    A few comments for any other people who might be considering it:
    It is definitely more challenging if you don’t have your sink right next to your toilet. Especially in the beginning of the cycle when your hands may get some “yuck” on them. Although, it is the worst the first time because after that it has all gone into the cup so it is pretty minimal yuck when removing and inserting after the first time. But anyway; your hand gets stuff on it, and you can’t wash your hands. I am not going to pull up any clothes with a yucky hand or two, so it proved very interesting trying to kind of hop, side slide across the bathroom with my pants around my ankles until I could wash my hands. I brought a baby wipe with me after the first few days, but that was not the best idea. After the first few days, though, I only had to empty it once a day and actually did that in the shower so it wasn’t bad.

    Also, cleaning the cup without water is kind of hard. I ended up bringing a little cup of water to kind of rinse it out, but once dropped the Diva into the toilet!!!! Luckily, there was nothing else in the toilet! That was pretty horrendous, though.

    But after the first few days, I grew to love that thing! I didn’t have to worry about leakage, I didn’t get that horrible feeling when I would stand up and feel the stuff flowing out and wondering and worrying about leaking. I have a pretty heavy flow the first few days. ANd while kinda hard to remove, it is comforting to know it won’t just slip out.

    And I love all the money I am saving!!!

    • Getting used to it can take a while, but it’s totally worth it!! ^_^ I used to have total panic every time I sneezed while wearing pads. Blood shot into places it simply should not go.

      And if it makes you feel better, I’ve actually dropped my cup into the toilet before. Twice. *^_^* The first time I’d just finished some serious business. I immediately boiled that cup and wanted to boil my hand too. Ick!!

  40. I have used a cup for years now, I love it – but I do think I need to read more on inserting it correctly. I cannot leave mine in for half a day without leaking….

    I was thinking maybe I needed to look into this brand. Do you know if the brand matters?

    • I’m not familiar with any other brands Paula, but I have discovered that I have slight leaking during my two heavy days if I leave the cup in too long.

    • If your cup is full when it starts leaking, you probably should empty it more often. That part totally depends on your individual flow.

      If it isn’t remotely close to full and it’s still leaking, you might need a bigger cup or a different brand. I’ve heard a lot of great things about LadyCup and Lunette. Here is a fantastic page that compares different brands!

      http://community.livejournal.com/menstrual_cups/1285963.html

  41. Wow…I have NEVER heard of such!! I am like several others on here who have a severely heavy flow and so the first few days I feel like I LIVE in the bathroom. I am forever trying to stay stocked up (on the cheap) with tampons and pads so I think this is DEF something I’m going to have to give a try! The tampons do make you cramp worse so I’m wondering if that will have the same effect, but from the sound of it it doesn’t. I have 2 sisters and an aunt that dealt with endometriosis (sp??) and I sort of feel like I might have the same problem so I’m wondering if it’s still safe to use just in case?!

    • You know I am not sure about using it with endometriosis. You may want to ask your doctor or call the Diva Cup company to ask someone. Let us know what you find out!

    • Hi Jenni!
      I have endometriosis and absolutely cannot use tampons due to the cramping and pain they cause for me. I was hesitant to pay out money for a Diva cup in case it caused the same effect. Well, I’m glad I tried it! It is WAY better than tampons, in fact, using a Diva cup with cloth pads as back-up is way better than disposable pads in terms of pain. There is information out there on how even disposable pads can make pain during your period worse, and it seems to hold true. I absolutely love my Diva Cup, it has made that time of the month a lot easier and has helped the pain. Still have lots from the endo, but at least the products I’m using aren’t making it worse!
      My guess is that the doctors would have no clue what you were talking about if you asked them their thoughts ;)

  42. I’ll be sure and call the company first and see what they say. They may also recommend that I ask my doctor. I am REALLY interested in trying it though. I can’t believe I have never even heard of it. Thanks so much for this, and honestly…if I hadn’t see the “Don’t follow my Blog” post, I may have missed this one…rofl!!

    Thanks Crystal ;).

  43. Thanks so much for that comment Lauren! Like I said, I haven’t been diagnosed but my cycles are pretty bad. I’m very happy to hear that the cup worked for you! I cannot wait to try it out and see what happens! I’ll definitely be coming back to leave my 2 cents worth after I’ve given it a try (successfully)! Wish Me Luck!! haha.

  44. @ Lucy Straw
    That is too funny! (and something to look forward to). ;-)

  45. I’m Baaackkk!! I am on day 3 of my cycle with the Diva Cup!! I got one right away after reading this post and I am happy to say that so far, I am IN LOVE! First off, the cramps are down probably more than 50-60% of what they used to be. I also noticed that I have alot less clotting…must have been caused by the tampons!

    I don’t want to get tooo TMI’ish, but I did wake up this morning with some major leakage but the 2nd and 3rd day is my heaviest. I have been wearing a backup pad the whole time also just because I wasn’t sure what to expect and I do notice some very minor spotting and am hoping that it disappears after my flow becomes lighter over the next few days.

    I am confident that it is “in” right and I have no problems with the “ins and outs” of it. Cleanup is wayyy less icky than with pads and tampons in my opinion. Not too sure about public bathrooms though!!!

    One question I do have though is this…Is it normal to have slight spotting like on toilet paper or on a pad even though the cup isn’t FULL?? I’m not sure if it is normal so I just thought that I’d ask?! I’ve been reading alot about whether it should be worn “high” or “low” and so I didn’t know if that had anything to do with it. I’ve tried both and it seems like I do still have some very minor spotting. On my first day, which is less heavy…I didn’t notice any spotting at all so I’m assuming in the next few days the spotting may disappear?!

    Lovin’ the Diva Cup thus Far!!!!!!!

    • Do you feel it at all? If the Diva is in right, you shouldn’t feel it at all. And yes there will be some spotting, because any blood that made it past where you insert it, obviously won’t go in the cup. I always wear something extra the first 2 days because of this. But otherwise I never have issues. If you insert the diva, and then bathe and clean that area out really well, you shouldn’t have any spotting even on day 1.

      But when you take it out, since your flow is so heavy, it will come down past the point where the diva is inserted. I hope that makes sense? So glad you like it! It really has changed my quality of life!

  46. No, I don’t feel it at all. I’ve just read some, especially on livejournal about some women wear it a little higher and some lower and that could have some effect on whether they leak or not. I think for each individual it’s just trial and error. What you’re saying makes sense though, hopefully I’ll figure it out soon.

    Even if I can’t figure it out…the Diva Cup is STILL way better than the alternative! I just wish I had found this little invention years ago!~

  47. She makes and sells handmade knitted and crocheted items and sells them, if you’re interested just let me know. She just made that outta the blue for me…she had never heard of a Diva Cup until I showed her mine and she just whipped that right up for me…so sweet!

  48. I tried the Instead cup when they first came out. Long story short, DO NOT use this cup if you have a tilted uterus.

    ‘Nuff said.

  49. Anyone use this with an IUD?

    I just checked on the Diva Cup website and they say “Please use caution when using any internal feminine hygiene product with an IUD as there is the possibility of dislodging it. Many of our customers use The DivaCup and an IUD simultaneously, but we recommend that you become familiar with your particular IUD risks” and check with your doctor.

    Any advice? Thanks!

  50. My concern would be getting a yeast infection. Do you know if there is a risk of getting one with these, or have you had any problems?

    • Have never heard anyone complain about yeast with the Diva cup and know quite a few who use it. I’ve never had one and have been using the Diva cup for a few years. It is nice that yoy can sterilize it if you want to.

  51. My GYN actually told me about the Diva Cup! She recommends it to all of her patients, pre and post child birth, she swears it lightens your period. I’ve been using it since I was 18 and a v*r*en (don’t want to attact the weirdos from the search engines), so let that encourage all of you with teenage daughers! I’ve never leaked, never even close to filled up the cup and I thought I was a heavy bleeder!!! This is so worth the cost, I hate the idea of chlorine being anywhere near my sensitive areas AND it eliminates the waste!

  52. I tried … I think it was Instead; whatever brand they carry at Whole Foods. Although not a cup, it follows a similar idea. Has anyone used both (Instead-style AND a cup)? I had NO luck with Instead (i.e. leaked more than it caught). Those have a flat, semi-rigid edge. The cups look to have a rolled edge, which seems like it would conform better to the inside of your body. I would love to try a cup, but hate to spend the money if it isn’t going to work for me anyway.
    Anyone know where I can get one used? (teehee)
    I can’t go in the pool or hot tub during my period because the string on a tampon acts like a wick (post three births) and I end up with a yeast infection. So I would love to hear if anyone can give me feedback on the differences or my chances for success.

    • Try soft cup, thats wut I use. I love it. It really did change my life.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

*

Password Reset
Please enter your e-mail address. You will receive a new password via e-mail.